Annoying Instagram Drama: Fake Smile

  Hey guys! I'm sooo sorry that it's been so long since I've posted anything and that I'm coming back like this

~ I realized after writing my complaints post that I am actually not being a hypocrite by writing posts like this because no one I know knows that I use this blog, and no one reads my posts anyways lolol
  Anyways, there will probably be more Annoying Instagram Drama posts after this one because I have been seeing a lot of that crap recently, but this one is the first of probably three.
  So, my school is K-12 and pretty small, so I know most of the jr. highers there and follow them on instagram. This girl that is giving the drama is a 7th grader that I will call H in case I end up showing this blog to someone at school xD The drama is nothing that is trying to pick a fight with some other chick or anything, but she just tries to get attention by getting people to feel sorry for her. A lot of her posts are her explaining that she uses a "fake smile", and that her life is pretty much crap.
  The stupid thing is, if you are really using a "fake smile", then you wouldn't be making posts like that. The whole point of a fake smile is for people to believe that you're okay and that you're able to endure through all the trials of life. However, that all goes to waste when you tell the whole world about it. If you have a "fake smile" then it'd be hard to hold back and you'd have to run from conversations to keep from crying.
  One cool thing about having a blog is that I can post all kinds of things like she is. However, it's ok for me because I know that no matter how much I can post about "my life is crap", there won't be anyone feeling sorry for me because they simply don't know me. But I don't post that kind of stuff, right? Why is that? I went through Jr. High and the same things that she is. In fact, her experience is probably going even better than mine back then. I never had a boyfriend and was even super depressed because the guy I liked faked to like me back then dumped me. I was never a very social person, so I barely even had friends out of my small class. The sports team I joined was horrible and made me think that I couldn't win at anything.

  Away from the whole "fake smile" thing that she claims to have, a bunch of other things bug me. "People these days don't know how to treat others" - the thing is, no one should expect for people to know how to treat others because no one is perfect. If everyone were to be kind to each other, sure it'd be peaceful, but people would think of it as boring. They may not admit it, but girls love to talk crap about each other, or they love to gossip. They may not like drama once it comes, but many seem to not be able to live without treating someone horribly. Even outside of girls and gossip, there is always someone that just doesn't know proper respect and the fact that you should act different around people depending on how much you know them. No matter what, there will always be things that others are bugged by or simply hate.
  (Sure, I'll admit I understand the whole acting crazy to forget things. But from what she posts, I've seen that her problems aren't even in this state. The whole acting crazy is supposed to distract you from whatever problems are around you, but it should be easy for her not to think about it all if she can't see it.)
  "I'm never intentionally mean or never a drama maker". She is a really nice girl. The problem is that she's
being a hypocrite when she says she isn't a drama maker. Half of her posts are like this one, and many of them often target some guy that doesn't love her back. She isn't starting anything with anyone in the state, but she's posted things of at least 3 different guys in the last few months. Maybe she doesn't think she's causing any problems, but her posts are annoying as heck. I would unfollow her, but she actually is happy sometimes, and I follow her for those posts. But when she does make the dramatic posts, I just want to yell at her like "suck it up- you're a frickin 7th grader and you're complaining every week about a guy you can only see on a screen(all the guys are in a different state too lawde). What problems are you going to have when you get to highschool and college?"... So yeah, she is a dramamaker.
  Past that, it annoys me to heck that she's talking like she's an amazing and most innocent person in the world. Even the most innocent person in the world wouldn't feel this sorry for themselves because they'd have even a small bit of modesty and notice that they sound like a character on a tv show, lying to make everyone sorry for them. She's bringing all the drama to herself when she says she doesn't deserve any of it.

AHHHHH I'm so sorry this is so long... I need to find better things to post about OTL However, this was really bugging me and it helps me so much to just type it all down instead of showing it all to someone I know in person. So yeah, that's rant #1. I apologize for this rant and the ones to come.

~Mare

 

Complaining

Hello~ I just wanted to share something that's been bothering me lately.
  Everywhere, it seems like the only anyone ever likes to do is complain. Sure, I understand that there are plenty of things to complain about, but there's no need to share them, at least not with me. Here are some reasons that I don't like to hear or respond to complaints(I understand that I'm being a hypocrite since pretty much this whole thing is a complaint, but I just had to let it out xD):
  1) I don't want to get involved. A lot of what people complain about has to do with someone else. For some reason, the complaining people want me to get involved with their drama. Maybe they think I have some authority over the other person or something? I don't. Getting me involved won't help your case at all, and it'll just bring negative things to me. I don't want to be selfish, but in this case, leave me alone. I do care for my friends, but not enough to get involved in something unneccesary. Their drama isn't pushing you to the point of hurting yourself or someone else(both mentally and physically), so why should I care? On the other hand, I'll try my best to help you if drama does get to the point of being considered continuous bullying.
  2) I disagree. One of the things that has been annoying me the most about all these complaints is that I don't even have the same opinion as the people complaining to me. I end up just saying "oh" or "yeah" because I don't want people to end up arguing or gossiping about me just because I disagreed with them. It's like my "Why I Don't Post Comments On Youtube" post- I can say the simplest thing with calmest tone of voice as possible, and someone will still think I'm a hater. So, I just stay quiet. No matter what I say, people will be stubborn, keep their opinion, and just find someone else to complain to.
  3) The thing that is being complained about shouldn't matter. People make a way bigger deal over some things than what is actually needed, and it just creates more drama and more things to complain about. If you don't like someone or something, you don't need to continuously talk about it. People will begin to think you've become obsessive, or you will become obsessive on your own. Some people just need to let go of whatever they keep complaining about and forget about it.
 4) I hear them too often. Even if it's the smallest complaint, it will annoy me if you mention it to me multiple times. Recently, a lot of people have been complaining about their or my food. They continuously tell me about the foods they don't like whenever someone has it for lunch. I know that I really shouldn't be annoyed by it, so I make sure not to say anything about it, but I honestly don't give a crap for what opinion people have on my food. People's complaints aren't going to make me change what I eat, so it should be obvious that people don't need to complain to me everytime it comes up. I won't even get to when people tell full stories of why they don't like certain things.

  Yeah~ There's my rant :) I think that if I were to give this rant straight to someone that was complaining, I wouldn't have any friends at this point. Thank goodness for a blog! Sorry for being a hypocrite and just complaining about complaints, but I had to tell all this to someone, or I might explode randomly while being in a conversation. However, thanks for reading, and I wish I could know some of everyone else's opinions! (I get views from so many different places, but no one comments!:( ) See everyone in my next post!

Some questions to the audience! -

Do you complain often?

How do you respond to complaints you disagree with?

What's your definition of a "hater"?

~Mare

Comfort Zone

  Hey guys! Sorry, I don't think I posted anything last week... I just wrote my speech on pets, and it was kind of... suckish. Well, all my speeches are but that one was extra stupid and cheesy. However, this week, I wrote my speech on gettting ot of the comfort zone!
  Whatever it is you like to do, it is important to get out of your "comfort zone" to improve. It pretty much explains itself. Your comfort zone is what you are you used to doing, but to get out of your comfort zone,

you have to try new things. This is why you should get out of your comfort zone once in a while.
  First, getting out of your comfort zone helps you improve. I'll use basketball as an example. You may be used to dribbling around the court and making lay ups, but you have to get out of your comfort zone and also practice shots farther from the hoop in order to improve them.
  Second, it gives you more options. The more you get out of your comfort zone, the more you'll know how to use. Instead of having to dribble up to the hoop to shoot lay ups, you'll also have the option of staying farther away and making hoops.
  Last, it will help you discover new things. After putting those things that were outside into your comfort zone, you'll discover a new level of things, and as you put those things into your comfort zone, there'll be even more.
  You have to try something you aren't comfortable with sometimes! It's important to get out of your comfort zone because it helps you improve, it gives you more options, and it helps you discover new things.

So yeah! For some reason, I'm running out of ideas about what to write about :( For at least a week, however, I should have more time to get online and draw, write, etc. My volleyball season just ended, but basketball season already starts in a few days! Anyways, see you guys in my next post!

~Mare

Don't Text and Drive

  Hey guys! As I said in my previous post, I have to write a speech every week. I can write it about whatever I want, and it only has to be a minute long. I haven't timed this one yet so I don't know exactly how long it is, but I thought I'd post it on here before reading it over again and printing it out.
  Although commercials and authorities have made it obvious, it seems like texting and driving is still an issue. These are reasons why you shouldn't text and drive.
  It's illegal. Even if you don't get in an accident from it, texting and driving can get you in trouble with the police.
  It isn't safe. No matter how much you think you can multi-task, texting will distract you from the road. Taking your hands off the wheel to type each letter of a text can cause an injury and maybe even a death, no matter how fast you can type each word.
  It isn't necessary. If you're texting, that probably means you aren't in a hurry. Having the time to start a conversation before driving should mean you have time to continue it afterwards.
  Making the small choice to text while driving can take away your freedom to make choices at all. What you think only costs you a few seconds of your life can keep someone from using several years of theirs. Texting while driving is illegal, unsafe, and unecessary.

  I hope that was... informational..? I don't know what word I should use. In drivers ed, we were being told about passing cars on a 2-way road. We were told that before passing, we should ask ourselves 3 questions: Is this legal? Is this safe? Is this necessary? Although it was only mentioned in one subject, I thought that those questions should be asked for most of our choices. So, I used it in my speech!
  Anyways, I hope that my speech somehow affected you!
~Mare