Annoying Instagram Drama: Fake Smile

  Hey guys! I'm sooo sorry that it's been so long since I've posted anything and that I'm coming back like this

~ I realized after writing my complaints post that I am actually not being a hypocrite by writing posts like this because no one I know knows that I use this blog, and no one reads my posts anyways lolol
  Anyways, there will probably be more Annoying Instagram Drama posts after this one because I have been seeing a lot of that crap recently, but this one is the first of probably three.
  So, my school is K-12 and pretty small, so I know most of the jr. highers there and follow them on instagram. This girl that is giving the drama is a 7th grader that I will call H in case I end up showing this blog to someone at school xD The drama is nothing that is trying to pick a fight with some other chick or anything, but she just tries to get attention by getting people to feel sorry for her. A lot of her posts are her explaining that she uses a "fake smile", and that her life is pretty much crap.
  The stupid thing is, if you are really using a "fake smile", then you wouldn't be making posts like that. The whole point of a fake smile is for people to believe that you're okay and that you're able to endure through all the trials of life. However, that all goes to waste when you tell the whole world about it. If you have a "fake smile" then it'd be hard to hold back and you'd have to run from conversations to keep from crying.
  One cool thing about having a blog is that I can post all kinds of things like she is. However, it's ok for me because I know that no matter how much I can post about "my life is crap", there won't be anyone feeling sorry for me because they simply don't know me. But I don't post that kind of stuff, right? Why is that? I went through Jr. High and the same things that she is. In fact, her experience is probably going even better than mine back then. I never had a boyfriend and was even super depressed because the guy I liked faked to like me back then dumped me. I was never a very social person, so I barely even had friends out of my small class. The sports team I joined was horrible and made me think that I couldn't win at anything.

  Away from the whole "fake smile" thing that she claims to have, a bunch of other things bug me. "People these days don't know how to treat others" - the thing is, no one should expect for people to know how to treat others because no one is perfect. If everyone were to be kind to each other, sure it'd be peaceful, but people would think of it as boring. They may not admit it, but girls love to talk crap about each other, or they love to gossip. They may not like drama once it comes, but many seem to not be able to live without treating someone horribly. Even outside of girls and gossip, there is always someone that just doesn't know proper respect and the fact that you should act different around people depending on how much you know them. No matter what, there will always be things that others are bugged by or simply hate.
  (Sure, I'll admit I understand the whole acting crazy to forget things. But from what she posts, I've seen that her problems aren't even in this state. The whole acting crazy is supposed to distract you from whatever problems are around you, but it should be easy for her not to think about it all if she can't see it.)
  "I'm never intentionally mean or never a drama maker". She is a really nice girl. The problem is that she's
being a hypocrite when she says she isn't a drama maker. Half of her posts are like this one, and many of them often target some guy that doesn't love her back. She isn't starting anything with anyone in the state, but she's posted things of at least 3 different guys in the last few months. Maybe she doesn't think she's causing any problems, but her posts are annoying as heck. I would unfollow her, but she actually is happy sometimes, and I follow her for those posts. But when she does make the dramatic posts, I just want to yell at her like "suck it up- you're a frickin 7th grader and you're complaining every week about a guy you can only see on a screen(all the guys are in a different state too lawde). What problems are you going to have when you get to highschool and college?"... So yeah, she is a dramamaker.
  Past that, it annoys me to heck that she's talking like she's an amazing and most innocent person in the world. Even the most innocent person in the world wouldn't feel this sorry for themselves because they'd have even a small bit of modesty and notice that they sound like a character on a tv show, lying to make everyone sorry for them. She's bringing all the drama to herself when she says she doesn't deserve any of it.

AHHHHH I'm so sorry this is so long... I need to find better things to post about OTL However, this was really bugging me and it helps me so much to just type it all down instead of showing it all to someone I know in person. So yeah, that's rant #1. I apologize for this rant and the ones to come.

~Mare

 

Complaining

Hello~ I just wanted to share something that's been bothering me lately.
  Everywhere, it seems like the only anyone ever likes to do is complain. Sure, I understand that there are plenty of things to complain about, but there's no need to share them, at least not with me. Here are some reasons that I don't like to hear or respond to complaints(I understand that I'm being a hypocrite since pretty much this whole thing is a complaint, but I just had to let it out xD):
  1) I don't want to get involved. A lot of what people complain about has to do with someone else. For some reason, the complaining people want me to get involved with their drama. Maybe they think I have some authority over the other person or something? I don't. Getting me involved won't help your case at all, and it'll just bring negative things to me. I don't want to be selfish, but in this case, leave me alone. I do care for my friends, but not enough to get involved in something unneccesary. Their drama isn't pushing you to the point of hurting yourself or someone else(both mentally and physically), so why should I care? On the other hand, I'll try my best to help you if drama does get to the point of being considered continuous bullying.
  2) I disagree. One of the things that has been annoying me the most about all these complaints is that I don't even have the same opinion as the people complaining to me. I end up just saying "oh" or "yeah" because I don't want people to end up arguing or gossiping about me just because I disagreed with them. It's like my "Why I Don't Post Comments On Youtube" post- I can say the simplest thing with calmest tone of voice as possible, and someone will still think I'm a hater. So, I just stay quiet. No matter what I say, people will be stubborn, keep their opinion, and just find someone else to complain to.
  3) The thing that is being complained about shouldn't matter. People make a way bigger deal over some things than what is actually needed, and it just creates more drama and more things to complain about. If you don't like someone or something, you don't need to continuously talk about it. People will begin to think you've become obsessive, or you will become obsessive on your own. Some people just need to let go of whatever they keep complaining about and forget about it.
 4) I hear them too often. Even if it's the smallest complaint, it will annoy me if you mention it to me multiple times. Recently, a lot of people have been complaining about their or my food. They continuously tell me about the foods they don't like whenever someone has it for lunch. I know that I really shouldn't be annoyed by it, so I make sure not to say anything about it, but I honestly don't give a crap for what opinion people have on my food. People's complaints aren't going to make me change what I eat, so it should be obvious that people don't need to complain to me everytime it comes up. I won't even get to when people tell full stories of why they don't like certain things.

  Yeah~ There's my rant :) I think that if I were to give this rant straight to someone that was complaining, I wouldn't have any friends at this point. Thank goodness for a blog! Sorry for being a hypocrite and just complaining about complaints, but I had to tell all this to someone, or I might explode randomly while being in a conversation. However, thanks for reading, and I wish I could know some of everyone else's opinions! (I get views from so many different places, but no one comments!:( ) See everyone in my next post!

Some questions to the audience! -

Do you complain often?

How do you respond to complaints you disagree with?

What's your definition of a "hater"?

~Mare

What is a Living Doll?

 Hi everyone! I've been spending a lot of time on tumblr haha if you want to follow me on there, my thing is maretheteddybear.tumblr.com.

  Just looking at some tags, Ive noticed that some people are picky about what "living dolls" are. I saw some
posts where someone was saying things like, "they don't do their makeup like a living doll and it just looks like crap" and "they don't have the characteristics of a doll". So let me point some things out. 

  Dolls are designed and made by people, so they can look like whatever the creator wants. Dolls aren't all white, skinny, with a perfect face. Anyone can call themselves a doll, even if they don't look anything like what people would expect a living doll to be. 

  A doll is defined as... 

Noun A small model of a human figure, often one of a baby or girl, used as a child's toy.   So really, you can look like a doll, as long as you're human (although I'm sure dolls have been made that look opposite). No one should be so harsh, unless someone is saying that they're perfect and better than everyone else. Just have fun with the tag! Be more specific! Trying looking like a "doll" too! oh hey its me lol   The only thing that I really have against the living doll tag is that people think that dolls are supposed to be perfect, so putting a picture of yourself on there can make you look kind of self conceited, as if you were calling yourself beautiful like a doll. However, I even put pictures of myself on there sometimes. Maybe I(and others) am just curious to see if people would consider me a living doll? Someone put out the idea of using the tag "dolly style" instead of "living doll", which I like a lot better, but I also use the living doll tag because I think it gets more views.  Thanks for reading! -Mare (sorry if the font sizes change halfway through- i couldnt get that figured out lol)

  

  

This is Why I Don't Post YouTube Comments!

  When I finally allow myself to write a comment... It slaps me in the face LOL

  I wrote a comment on Block B's Nillila Mambo:

  "Is it just me or does PO seem like he could be related to TOP in this video?"

  And suddenly some other person right after was like "BLOCK B COPIED BIG BANG" and for some reason a bunch of people suddenly thought I meant the same thing as that person or something...? So a whole argument started over that lol there was only like one person that actually understood what I meant...

So one person replied to me:

"Just because they both have a deep voice doesn't mean they're related. TOP isn't the first deep voice rapper in Kpop, and he certainly won't be the last."

  I DON'T UNDERSTAND :,D why would I be talking about their voices? When you notice that someone's related to another, don't you usually tell because they look alike? And I wasn't meaning for it to be literal and start gossip like "TOP IS SECRETLY PO'S OLDER BROTHER"

  Now that I've gotten to see more of Block B's videos, I can really tell that they don't look similar at all, but it was just one of my first times watching their MVs and that's what came to my mind first. I didn't mean anything like one group is copying the other(Big Bang and Block B's music are nothing alike so I don't get where people thought of that), members are related, etc. I just though they looked alike in some parts of the music video!

  So yeah, sorry if I started some misunderstanding... I'm trying to get everyone to understand in the comments of the video now haha I really didn't think so many would take it like that...

Have a nice day! ~ Mare

XiaoRishu and VenusAngelic

  Hey everyone! Sorry I've only made like one blog post, yet I haven't had the time to make another! Today I wanted to talk about some people on YouTube!

  Out of all the channels on YouTube, I think my favorite to watch are the "living dolls", otakus, vloggers, etc. such as Venus Angelic, Jemminem, XiaoRishu, etc. Just one thing I've noticed: some of them really tend to attract drama...(Doesn't really include Jemminem but I just love her channel lol)

VenusAngelic

  I'm really surprised that this is an issue even though it happened like one or two years ago, but for some reason people make a big deal out of VenusAngelic and XiaoRishu, and how Venus was and somehow still is cyberbullying people. Just pointing this out, but it isn't bullying when someone blocks you on a website. Several people were making a big deal out of Venus blocking them, when it doesn't really do anything other than keep you from commenting on their videos. Even if you weren't hating or anything, you shouldn't make a big deal out of getting blocked. You probably just wrote something controversial or annoying. lol idk. I don't post half of the comments I think of because I don't think it's something that really needs to be said, several people have already said the same thing, or it might just sound rude to some people.

XiaoRishu

  If you don't know what happened between Xiao and Venus, you can just look at Xiao's cyberbullying video or all the other blog posts about it. As much as it does sound like Venus and her mother were really rude and they should be getting in trouble or something for all of it, I'm kind of tempted to take her side because of how Xiao and all the Team Springroll people are "handling" it. Just saying, but just making a youtube video or a blog post about it isn't going to solve anything. If you want to get rid of the problem, report it to whatever website/person that's supposed to take care of those things.
  And hey, if you make a video about it and make a nickname for them to not directly call them out, what's the whole point of posting links all over the video showing proof that includes the person's name? Another thing that annoyed me was that Xiao was like "don't hate on her just because of this". If you don't want anyone to hate her, then don't make a video about it. It should be obvious that not everyone is going to listen to you and will go and do the opposite. Jeez, handle it like anime and korean drama characters lol.
So, yeh, there goes my rant. I'm not on either of their sides, but I love both of them and their videos. I just wish people would forget the past... *sigh...*
    See you in my next post! ~Mare