Everywhere, it seems like the only anyone ever likes to do is complain. Sure, I understand that there are plenty of things to complain about, but there's no need to share them, at least not with me. Here are some reasons that I don't like to hear or respond to complaints(I understand that I'm being a hypocrite since pretty much this whole thing is a complaint, but I just had to let it out xD):
1) I don't want to get involved. A lot of what people complain about has to do with someone else. For some reason, the complaining people want me to get involved with their drama. Maybe they think I have some authority over the other person or something? I don't. Getting me involved won't help your case at all, and it'll just bring negative things to me. I don't want to be selfish, but in this case, leave me alone. I do care for my friends, but not enough to get involved in something unneccesary. Their drama isn't pushing you to the point of hurting yourself or someone else(both mentally and physically), so why should I care? On the other hand, I'll try my best to help you if drama does get to the point of being considered continuous bullying.
2) I disagree. One of the things that has been annoying me the most about all these complaints is that I don't even have the same opinion as the people complaining to me. I end up just saying "oh" or "yeah" because I don't want people to end up arguing or gossiping about me just because I disagreed with them. It's like my "Why I Don't Post Comments On Youtube" post- I can say the simplest thing with calmest tone of voice as possible, and someone will still think I'm a hater. So, I just stay quiet. No matter what I say, people will be stubborn, keep their opinion, and just find someone else to complain to.
3) The thing that is being complained about shouldn't matter. People make a way bigger deal over some things than what is actually needed, and it just creates more drama and more things to complain about. If you don't like someone or something, you don't need to continuously talk about it. People will begin to think you've become obsessive, or you will become obsessive on your own. Some people just need to let go of whatever they keep complaining about and forget about it.
4) I hear them too often. Even if it's the smallest complaint, it will annoy me if you mention it to me multiple times. Recently, a lot of people have been complaining about their or my food. They continuously tell me about the foods they don't like whenever someone has it for lunch. I know that I really shouldn't be annoyed by it, so I make sure not to say anything about it, but I honestly don't give a crap for what opinion people have on my food. People's complaints aren't going to make me change what I eat, so it should be obvious that people don't need to complain to me everytime it comes up. I won't even get to when people tell full stories of why they don't like certain things.
Yeah~ There's my rant :) I think that if I were to give this rant straight to someone that was complaining, I wouldn't have any friends at this point. Thank goodness for a blog! Sorry for being a hypocrite and just complaining about complaints, but I had to tell all this to someone, or I might explode randomly while being in a conversation. However, thanks for reading, and I wish I could know some of everyone else's opinions! (I get views from so many different places, but no one comments!:( ) See everyone in my next post!
Some questions to the audience! -
Do you complain often?
How do you respond to complaints you disagree with?
What's your definition of a "hater"?
~Mare
